How to be better than the former ?
Sometimes in relationships, men and women can shoot the shadow of a past life.Many women in this situation, think about how to be better than the former.The presence of the shadow of the former causes a lot of different feelings, but the most important of which is the jealousy.We must not forget that jealousy is killing relationships.Jealousy of past relations, one of the most destructive.After all, each of the partners is behind your luggage experience.Do not delve into the past life of his partner.Live in the present and boldly in love look to the future of your relationship!
you will find a new happiness
Remember that past, particularly pleasant and joyful moments of life, are not just in an instant pick up and evaporate from our memory!At the beginning of your relationship, be prepared for the fact that a certain amount of time your partner will be more mentally return to the former relationship.Be wiser.If you notice that he still remembers the previous relations, try to be patient.Yes, it does say that he was serious about her and loved her greatly, but it does not indicate that he loves you less.Believe me, to be held not have much time, and he will gradually forget about it.His memory will acquire new sensations, emotions, moments of your personal history together, and they displace the distant past.
If he compares you with his ex, talk to him about it, tell me what you are talking unpleasant and should be discontinued.
not remind him of the past life, do not provoke, not to reopen wounds.Fill your life pleasure, joy, happiness, warmth, comfort, novelty, love!
Appreciate and love yourself
Do not look for ways how to be better than the former.Stay by itself, because if you chose, then it is you need, rather than an improved copy ex-girlfriend.It is a mistake to think that you can be closer to him, if it will become better.He graduated from a past relationship, now in his life and in his heart is the main place belongs only to you.And how will build your happy life together, it depends only on you two.Nothing positive zealous attitude to the "former" will bring.On the contrary, a reminder of it can cause irritation to your partner and conflict in the relationship.Therefore, to compare themselves with the former stupid!Also, raising the subject of the former, you may not notice how some seemingly innocuous memories of your partner might hurt hurt your feelings lead you to self-blame, to uncertainty, to reduce your self-esteem, to spoil the mood, suppress your resentment.Think about it before venturing talk about a previous life.Well and if it can not be avoided, try to discreetly from a partner you change the unpleasant topic of conversation.
Worthy take it past
Of course, it is difficult, he has children from a previous marriage.In this case, you just need to accept the fact that children as small invisible thread that will forever bind your soul mate with the former.You have to find the right place for them in your life, the most worthy of showing to the man that you do not reproach him in a past life that you recognize his right to communicate with the children in his care of them that you appreciate and respect his choice.Humble yourselves and take them.Remember that it does not say that he still belongs, and the former.In wisely built a relationship there is always a clear distinction between permissible and impermissible.
Do not look for a trick in the relationship
If your partner does not remember a past life, do not look for the catch.After all, most of all, he really and sincerely loves you infinitely, so that in his mind there is no place for memories of the former.Especially not delve into his past, asking mutual friends or relatives.He clearly does not like all this, when he finds out.Be reasonable.Trust your partner, you love it.With thanks belong to the past for its second half, because it experiences allowed him to become the way you love it.
Take care of your happiness.Everything depends on you.Do not look to the past, live the present, build plans for the future!