How to start a conversation ?

How to start a conversation ?

Yes, the problem is not simple.You sit, you look at his or her photo on social networks like ... How to start a correspondence?What I would say this, so as not to alienate, so keen to please in the end.We will not smear the topic, sharing how to start conversation with a guy like a woman, like a man as with a woman.Just try to look at the main options breaker with a stranger.

Correspondence: motives

Generally, start with that, why do you write to this person, that is, find out their motives.On them you will have to navigate in the future depends on them what and how you write.To make it easier to start, we offer the most frequent reasons that motivate people to write to strangers:

  1. person you like in the photo and you want to become more familiar (by the way, here, too, find out what you want to have a friend or maybe even thinking about the beginning of a relationship);
  2. You just got bored and you want to brighten up a pastime;
  3. you want to show off, so to speak, a boast for self-affirmation;
  4. your motive - make useful contacts, contacts in a particular area or environment.

Getting Started

So, on the basis of the motives suggested by us, we try to consistently see how to start a conversation with a woman or a man in a social network.

Motive - sympathy

Perhaps the most frequent motif.Logically, your goal - to please too.

  1. Since the start correspondence in contact, for example, not only can a personal message, and it can be used.Comment on any photo of man, the original commentary.Although, to be honest, if you are interested in a person, it will be enough and a simple comment to the photo, such as his house, such as: "how beautiful!"If you are not so interesting, even the most original comment probably be ignored.But there are always exceptions!In the end, people may simply not notice your writings.So, after waiting time, proceed further.
  2. trivial.Write simply: "Hello, no, we do not know, I just wanted to say hello to you."Is focused on the individual - "you."And then how it goes.
  3. can start conversation with a compliment.For the most part it is the lot of young people, however, and she can not afford it.The main thing here - sincerity (be honest at least in front of him) write compliments, if you really want to do it.
  4. can pretend to make a mistake.Full namesake your classmate (ces), well, confused, who does not happen.Perhaps the conversation and start up.
  5. Write what you know the person who could not if you somewhere to meet.Very much you remember the cute face.
  6. the Internet you can find funny phrases such as: "and on the earth, that there are angels," implying that it is an angel (it is rather to how to start a conversation with the girl).Though certainly for the guys also have this kind of "frazochki".

rule that should be followed: do not try to drastically reduce the distance, it frightens and repels (both boys and girls).Begin gradually acquainted with the abstract.

The most important thing to rely on its main goal.You have to like the person.So Marshall whole conversation so that he (she) is pleasing to you.After all, there is such a phenomenon in psychology: we like those who like us.So show your sympathy.

Motive - boredom

Well here it is possible to start with anything.Your goal - to brighten up the loneliness and relieve boredom.

  1. can chat and start with: "Hello, I'm writing because I'm sad (we press on pity) I thought (a) it is possible to fix the conversation with a nice man.".
  2. Can you think of a theme, any brand and offer to discuss it.Well, if you write the questions asman will be easier to answer.And then, if you start up a conversation, and then he starts to ask.Importantly do not forget that you write, so do not jump to talk only about yourself, be sure to also ask about the person.

motif - affirmation

Actually, you probably already caught the essence of our presentation.The goal - to increase their self-esteem.

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Start talking one way and then untwist themselves, but in moderation!Too selfish, as a rule, not very much favor.

motif - the good, the benefit

you've found the person in the field, due to which are useful for you.Your purpose - to show an interest.

conversation start in the topic, the area is associated with your interest.There will be two parallel lines of conversation: you need to be interested in a person (ie, to please him, as above) and show your interest in the "business".No need to start from a distance, you need to immediately show that you are interested in "the opportunity to join the club," "to do so and so-so."Make human expert, ask, show him that he is intelligent (admire).